Many college students are in a transitional stage. They are learning to make many important decisions on their own â€“ including decisions about intimate relationships and sexual activity. By supporting your students, communicating with them, and offering facts and education, you can have a positive influence on their sexual decision making. Itâ€™s never too late to start an open dialogue with your son or daughter about sex.
Talk to your student about how he or she thinks and feels.
Conversation Starter: â€œThat song has a good beat, but the song makes it seem like having sex makes you a man (or woman). Do you think thatâ€™s true?â€ This could open the door forâ€¦
Talk to your student about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs).
Conversation Starter: â€œThey never talk about STIs on that television show, even though the show features lots of stuff about sex. Have you heard about anybody at your school who has been diagnosed with an STI?â€ This could open the door forâ€¦
Talk to your student about condoms.
Conversation Starter: â€œI heard that they give out free condoms at the University Health Services on campus. Have you seen them?â€ This could open the door forâ€¦
Talk to your student about pregnancy.
Conversation Starter: â€œSince youâ€™ve been at Kent State have you met any students who are pregnant or young parents?â€ This could open the door forâ€¦
Talk to your student about sex and alcohol.
Conversation starter: â€œI know that there will be opportunities for you to drink alcohol and/or try drugs at college. Have your friends been talking about this?" This could open the door forâ€¦
N---Say â€œNoâ€ instead of â€œmaybeâ€ or â€œlater.â€ Remind your student to set boundaries and be decisive. If your student makes the decision not to have sex before being confronted by the pressure to have sex, it will be easier to say â€œnoâ€ when the situation arises.
I--- Follow with an â€œIâ€ statement. For example, â€œI plan to wait several years before I have sex.â€ Or â€œIâ€™m not going to have sex until I get married.â€ Or â€œSex isnâ€™t part of my game plan right now.â€
C--- if pressure continues, â€œChange.â€ Teach your student to change the topic: â€œDid you see the game on TV last night?â€ or change their conversation partner: â€œJulie is over there, I need to ask her somethingâ€ or change the location: â€œIâ€™m going back into the kitchen.â€
E--- if these strategies do not help, your student needs an â€œExitâ€ plan. Your student should know to leave a bad situation immediately. If he or she does not have a way home, he/she should call a trusted friend or adult. Your student can also call a Campus Escort for a safe walk home. It is a good idea for your student to have a code phrase that she or he could say to a friend that will let them know that they need to leave quickly.
*Weinstock H, Berman S, Cates W, Jr. (2004). Sexually transmitted diseases among American youth: Incidence and prevalence estimates, 2000. Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, 36, 6-10.