The DOs

The DO's

  • DO trust your intuition.
  • DO speak with your friend privately.
  • DO let him/her know you are concerned about his/her welfare.
  • DO express your concern directly, in non-judgmental terms.
  • DO tell him/her that you are willing to help.
  • DO listen carefully to what he/she is upset about; use active listening.
  • DO acknowledge the feelings of your friend.
  • DO help him/her explore options.
  • DO point out that help is available, and that seeking help is a sign of strength and courage, rather than weakness or failure.
  • DO suggest resources.
  • DO maintain clear and consistent boundaries and expectations.
  • DO recognize your limits.
  • DO enlist the help of others as appropriate.