Taking Care of Yourself

Taking Care of Yourself

“I’m trying to support my friend but I’m feeling overwhelmed.”

Some people reach the point where, instead of being a friend, they feel they've become more of a caretaker. You may feel responsible for your friend and worry about what would happen if you weren't around. It can be painful and difficult - on both sides - to admit that this is happening, but there are things you can do to look after yourself and rebalance the friendship. For example:

• Take a break if you need to – some time to yourself can help you feel refreshed.
• Set clear boundaries to the support you can give.  Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you’re rejecting someone – it just means you’re being realistic about what you can and can’t do.
• Share your role with others, if you can.  Knowing other people are there to support your friend can take the pressure off you.
• Talk about how you’re feeling.  Be careful how much you share about the friend you’re supporting but talking about your feelings can help you feel supported too.
• And remember you don’t have to solve their problems on your own.  Encourage your friend to reach out to CAPS or other offices on campus for additional support.