Examining Your Relationship | Kent State University

Examining Your Relationship

Healthy Relationships

In a healthy relationship, you should be able to:

  • Express your opinions and have them be respected
  • Have your needs be as important as your partner’s needs
  • Grow as an individual in your own way
  • Not be afraid of doing or saying "the wrong thing"
  • Change your mind
  • Feel confident about yourself when you are around your partner
  • Not take responsibility for your partner’s behavior
  • Not be physically, emotionally, or sexually abused
  • Break up with or fall out of love with someone and not be threatened

Warning Signs

Emotionally Abusive Relationships

You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:

  • Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you
  • Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive
  • Tries to isolate you from family or friends
  • Monitors where you go, whom you call and with whom you spend time
  • Humiliates you in any way
  • Does not want you to work
  • Controls finances or refuses to share money
  • Punishes you by withholding affection
  • Expects you to ask permission
  • Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets
  • Threatens to hurt himself/herself if you break up

Physically Abusive Relationships

You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:

  • Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.)
  • Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you
  • Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place
  • Scared you by driving recklessly
  • Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you
  • Forced you to leave your home
  • Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving
  • Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention
  • Hurt your children
  • Used physical force in sexual situations

Sexually Abusive Relationships

You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:

  • Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships
  • Wants you to dress in a sexual way
  • Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names
  • Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts
  • Held you down during sex
  • Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you
  • Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex
  • Involved other people in sexual activities with you
  • Ignored your feelings regarding sex

Help is Available

If you think that you may be in an abusive relationship, help is available.

Helpful Resources
Contact Phone Website
SRVSS Office 330-672-8016 www.kent.edu/srvss/get-help
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) www.thehotline.org